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The Joys of the P-spot


If you’ve never felt a P-spot climax before, I think it’s time for you to try.

The Joys of the P-spot

What is it and why should I explore it?

What is the P-spot and how do I find it?

How can I experience its benefits in the bedroom?

Will it be painful?

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First Time Bottoms | 5 Bottoming for Beginners Tips


Are you a first time bottom? If you’re new to bottoming, you probably have a ton of questions—and worries—about what’s in store. It’s human to worry, but know this: when it’s done properly, bottoming should be a fantastic—and pain-free—experience. Before anyone else gets involved, there are a few steps below you should take on your own to get you set up.

When it’s time to play with someone else—and this is important—find a top you trust. Someone who’s happy to go at your pace. Remember: it’s your butt, so you call the shots, including when the fun is over.

In addition to this guide, you may also want to check out our article about lube, which has more advice you might find useful. For now, let’s get into some tips for becoming a bottom safely and smartly.  

1. Get into training

First, some science: we spend most of our time with our butt muscles clenched. So you need to train them to relax on demand, in order to allow in toys, the ‘real thing’ or anything else you want to put in there (if that’s your goal).

We have three major muscles in our butt—all of them need to be relaxed for complete (and successful) entry.

Next: invest in a kit with three gradual dilators (smallmedium, and large plugs). You’ll also need a water-based or toy-safe lube (as silicone lube can ruin silicone toys). Finally: you’re ready for your workout...

2. Your butt workout routine

  1. Using your kit—and tons of lube—start some gentle butt play with the small dilator until you feel pressure from the muscles in your butt.

  2. Try to consciously relax to accommodate and then slowly remove once you hit resistance—all in one continuous motion.

  3. Re-lubricate and insert again with a similar technique of slowly in, meeting resistance, and then slowly pulling out. This shouldn’t be painful at all—most people need to repeat this 4-6 times before complete insertion.

  4. Keep this cycle going for 12-15 times for a complete session. If it’s too much, it’s OK to end that session and then try again another day.

  5. The more experienced you get, the longer you’ll be able to play comfortably. You’ll notice everything relaxes over time—gradual progression is key.

  6. Playing with yourself while doing your workout is a good idea, as it helps you learn to control your pelvic floor. Also attempting real-life scenarios will allow everything that follows to go smoothly.

Repeat this 2-3 times per week. Use the small plug for two weeks, then both the small and medium plugs for the following two weeks. After that, add the large plug, which can take 4-6 weeks to work your way up to. The large is quite large: most people are ready for the real thing once they’ve managed with the medium. Speaking of which... 

3. Next: the real deal

Once you’ve succeeded in using all of your plugs with ease, you’re ready for your first time bottoming with the real thing. Continue using the plugs before or during butt play for the first few times, as well as taking a more dominating role in the beginning.

You’ll want to make sure you have some essential supplies at your fingertips: a handful of your favorite condoms (if you use them), ample amounts of your favorite lube (make sure it’s compatible with your condoms), and a small towel to help clean up. With the rapid adoption of PrEP, condom use has declined; however, using condoms for added protection is still an effective way to reduce the transmission of STD’s. Nowadays, there are plenty of options that are so thin they feel like you aren’t even wearing anything, so pick a couple and find the one that you and your partner like the most.

4. Bottom on top? Best positions for new bottoms

Once dilated and ready to go, I recommend sitting on the “D” and maneuvering until you find the experience comfortable and pleasurable. Take more of a dominating role in the initial stages: make sure you’re in complete control of the speed and depth, until your butt relaxes to its max potential.

This may take time—in one or several sessions—to allow you to truly embrace it all and feel beyond comfortable. Once this occurs, you can start experimenting with other positions, all the while analyzing the best angles for entry and enjoyment. Your top will probably have some pointers too!

5. Keep it up

The best bottoms bottom regularly. You know that feeling when you skip the gym for a couple of weeks and then you try jumping right back in? It doesn’t go well. And it’s the same in the bedroom. You need regular dilation to allow for the full relaxation – not only to enjoy butt play, but to minimize injury. It takes time to get hardwired for complete and full control of your butt muscles.

There is a true art to being a bottom and thinking about it in a step-by-step process is key to its success. We promise you it will become less methodical—and way more fun—as you make progress. This guide will hopefully help get you started, but your own experience will really help inform your approach. Whether you’re a top or bottom or vers, get in contact through The Forum if you have any more specific questions. And good luck!

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